This is something that has been discussed and picked apart ad nauseum whenever some wack-a-doo kills someone. What was their motivation? Did they play video games? Were they violent video games? That must be why so-and-so shot up that elementary school! He played Call of Duty!
This is especially bothering me when it comes to the Boston bombers. TMZ (I know, it’s not exactly the New Yorker) has been posting stories about the bombers’ pasts, trying to do their part to educate the public on these men’s lives before they became the most hated people in America. This was a story they posted today:
—-Boston Bomber Dzhokhar Tsarnaev was a big fan of “Breaking Bad” … praising the show for teaching him how to dispose of corpses.
Since his capture Friday … a lot of information is surfacing about the 19-year-old Chechan college student who helped mastermind a deadly attack on the Boston Marathon and led police on a massive manhunt.
Turns out Dzhokhar was a fan of violent TV shows … in particular “Game of Thrones” and “Breaking Bad.”
He tweeted earlier this year … “Breaking Bad taught me how to dispose of a corpse.”
As TMZ previously reported, his 26-year-old brother Tamerlan — who was killed by cops during the manhunt — was deep into hip hop.
Dzhokhar remains in police custody, in serious condition and unable to speak.—-
Ok. Let’s discuss this, shall we? Breaking Bad is an amazing show, probably one of the best shows in the history of television. It is not a show that I would consider to be overly violent, but we are a desensitized culture, so others may disagree with me. On a scale of Full House to The Wire in terms of violence and gore, I’d rate Breaking Bad at around a Lost. Did that make a lick of sense? Anyways, Breaking Bad has had a few iconic scenes - SPOILER ALERT - in one of the series’ first episodes (and again, in an episode last season), two of the main characters dispose of a dead body by dissolving it in acid. This was supposed to be a nod to the main character’s knowledge of chemistry and to show the audience that he was in over his head - and yes, it was gory, but it wasn’t done in a sensationalistic way. It fit with the storyline of the show.
My issue is this: What does this have to do with the Boston bombers? It seems to me that TMZ is searching for something, anything to blame for these men’s actions. I don’t think this one fits. Dzhokhar had a twitter page that TMZ must have combed through to find this tweet - and I say that because, as I said, the “body disposal” plot happened 5 years ago…and then again last July. So it wasn’t as if this guy was typing this last week.
Also, these guys are/were fucking maniacs, that much is obvious - but they didn’t “dispose of any bodies,” so what does this have to do with ANYTHING? He tweeted that to be a creep, probably over a year ago. (I do not know this for a fact, because I have no desire to look at this psycho’s tweets, but that’s what I assume based on when the show aired.)
TMZ also asserts that the older brother was “deep into hip hop.” So is Gwyneth Paltrow, and I don’t think she’s murdered anything but a few of her Goop-reader’s braincells.
I know that people want answers. I get that people want to wrap everything up with a neat little bow and crucify the entertainment industry for influencing normal people to do awful things. But that just isn’t the case. My roommate watches Game of Thrones, and she has never tried to murder me with a medieval sword (that I know of). I personally love horror movies and reading anything and everything about serial killers- but I also ran over a cat once and pulled over to cry for 15 minutes. Maybe if I listen to more rap music, my inner psychopath will finally come out and I can go on a murderous rampage.
While I don’t have articles and scientific facts to back me up, I have read enough to believe that evil is not made; it is born. There are, of course, isolated incidents where there may be brainwashing or torture involved until someone breaks. But I do believe that most people are inherently good. Others are born with something missing. This is why you hear about children killing animals at a young age as being a warning sign. There is something wired incorrectly in their brains. I am, in no way, making excuses for them or saying they have an “illness.” They ARE sick, but there is help out there and not everyone who has sociopathic tendencies goes out and shoots up a movie theater. If every person who played Call of Duty, or watched The Dark Knight, went on a killing spree, we’d have a much larger problem on our hands.
There are so many variables and factors that can lend to an outcome such as the Boston bombing. Environment, upbringing, religious beliefs (yes, I went there) - but even before their shitty childhoods or their associations with well known terrorist groups, there is something missing. There is enough to digest here without bringing musical taste and favorite television shows into it. This is not a myspace profile. And I do not believe that anything would have been different if one bomber had watched less Game of Thrones, or the other one had listened to less Eminem, so let’s stop with all that.
The Boston Marathon bombing earlier this week has been weighing heavily on my mind, as I’m sure it has been for most people. I find myself going to watch a tv show or check a website, and instead, getting sucked in to videos and news coverage about the victims for hours. I’m scared, you guys. I’m scared and angry and sad. So very sad.
I remember sitting in history class as a child, reading about past wars and bombings. It all seemed so intangible and foreign: the photos of children having bomb drills in classrooms, the shelters people set up, the fear in their faces. I felt safe. I was too young to grasp what was happening in the Gulf War. I don’t really remember the World Trade Center bombing in 1993. I saw images of the Oklahoma City bombing, but it was so far away and I was only 13 at the time. I never quite understood the horrors of the world. I felt safe.
Now, I don’t feel safe anymore. The world is a different place now, and it’s horrifying. There is so much evil in this world, and it’s not only coming from one group anymore. People can’t feel safe at the movies anymore. Parents can’t be sure their children will come home from school unscathed. Going to work can be dangerous. And now even running a marathon on a gorgeous day in the company of thousands of people can be a death sentence.
I know that I am afraid, but I also know that I cannot live in fear. My fear has been outweighed by heart-swelling pride as I watch footage of the aftermath of this most recent tragedy. That scene looked horrifically traumatizing for even those who were uninjured. Blood and limbs strewn everywhere, people screaming and dazed - like the front lines in a war over seas, not a sunny street in historic Boston. Those civilians and first responders who leaped into action within seconds of the blast are heroes, and it truly is a beautiful thing to behold in the midst of all that horror. Regular folks putting themselves in danger to help complete strangers, most likely saving people’s lives through their swift actions.
I only wish that this kind of togetherness, support, and love would be prevalent every day, and not just when tragedies occur. Maybe if people were a little nicer and reached out to other human beings rather than judging and bullying, we would have less horror in the world.
There are many relief funds set up for the people affected by the marathon bombings, but I have selected a few that spoke to me. I will post them here. Please give a few dollars - you can buy that new outfit or new iPhone in a few weeks. These people’s lives will never be the same, and most of them will have to deal with extremely expensive prosthetics once they get through surgeries and rehabilitation. It’s a small way of helping, but sometimes it’s the only way when you can’t physically be there. All of these people’s stories are on their pages - click to read about them.
-Support Jeff Baumen: http://www.gofundme.com/Support-Jeff-Bauman
-Support Martin Richard’s family: http://richardfamilyfund.org/
-Support Celeste and Sydney: http://www.gofundme.com/CelesteandSydney
-Support Patrick and Jessica Downes: http://www.gofundme.com/2mj2i8
-Fund set up by Massachusetts Governor and Boston Mayor for those who need it most: http://onefundboston.org/
-Fund set up by Boston’s first responders: https://www.bosfirecu.com/page.php?page=246
—As I wrote this, I had the news on. In the midst of updates about bombing suspects and the horrific situation in Texas, a breaking news report cut in. Hollywood Boulevard has been shut down for blocks because a man has walked into a restaurant screaming that he has an explosive device strapped to his chest. Fucking STOP IT. Stop it, you insane lunatics. Someone else called in a bomb threat to Cal State earlier today. Knock it off. This has never been funny, and is certainly not funny right now. People are losing their lives, their limbs, and their loved ones. STOP IT.
“The Distracted Mother”
The door to the gelato shop opens. A small boy, around 6 years old, runs through the lobby, making a beeline for the gelato case. He begins to pound on the glass with his small fists.
“Chocolate!” he screeches. ”I want chocolate!!”
The cashier looks around helplessly, searching for the adult this child belongs to. The child continues to slap the case with his hands, leaving streaks of the dirt and food particles he has picked up during his day. The cashier grimaces; she just windexed.
A moment later, the door to the cafe opens again, and a slim woman in her late 40s enters, holding an iPhone up to her ear. She pauses to glance at her reflection in the mirror on the wall, scrunching her hair up with her free hand and flashing her teeth. Satisfied, she makes her way over to the counter.
“Right, I know, hon,” she says into the phone, not making eye contact with the cashier. ”I told you, I don’t care what your lawyer says. You helped make that house a home. Married less than a year or not, you are entitled to keep it.”
The boy, quiet during this exchange, spins around and slaps the woman on one of her thighs. She sucks in a breath and grabs his sticky hand, pushing him away from her. She pulls the phone away from her ear for a moment and begins whispering to the boy.
“Joshy. Joshy, what did mommy tell you? You need to wait a minute. Tell the girl what you want,” she says, gesturing limply to the cashier. ”Maybe she’ll let you try a flavor.”
She turns back to her conversation as the boy eyes up the cashier. ”Chocolate,” he says in a loud, clear voice. It is not a request. ”I want to try chocolate.”
The cashier grits her teeth and spoons a bit of chocolate onto a spoon. She reaches over the counter to hand it to the child, but he is too short to reach. He begins to jump for it, kicking the case with every leap. His mother, noticing the commotion, waves her hand at the cashier and gestures that he can’t reach without breaking her phone conversation. ”I told you to call my lawyer,” she’s saying, pointing at her son with a perfectly manicured nail. ”She’s a real shark. Got me an amazing settlement.” She narrows her eyes at the cashier. ”I mean, you’ve seen my car, and I don’t even drive.”
The cashier finally gives the spoon to the child. He promptly drops the gelato on the floor and yells: “The stupid lady made me drop it!”
The mother snaps to attention at this. ”Kel? Kel. I have to go. Joshy apparently needs help.” She rolls her eyes and puts her phone in her bag.
“Ok, Joshy. How difficult can this be? What did you want? Ooh, how about you try the vanilla with rum soaked lady fingers? Does that sound good??”
Joshy’s face darkens. ”I already TOLD you, stupid. I want CHOCOLATE.”
His mother smiles lovingly and begins reading off the flavors. ”Mmm, raspberry? You like raspberry. Honey fig? That sounds amazing, right Joshy?” The child begins shouting “chocolate” over and over, each time getting louder, banging on the glass case with every syllable. His mother finally grabs his hands.
“Don’t do that, my love. That glass is dirty.” The cashier dies a little inside.
The mother finally relents and orders a child sized chocolate. At the words “child sized,” Joshy has a full blown meltdown.
“I’m not a BAY-BEY,” he yells. ”I don’t WANT that size. I want the PINK cup.”
The mother bites her lip. ”But Muffin, the pink is the biggest one. You haven’t had dinner yet. Are you sure?” Her six year old nods. ”Ok,” she relents, “but only because you’re such a good boy.”
The cashier begins scooping into the cup. Once she has adorned the cup with a small cookie and plastic spoon, Joshy sees that there are cones available.
“Oh no, I want a cone,” he whines to his mother. She has pulled out her iPhone again, and is now scrolling through it rapidly. She looks up.
“Oh,” she says to the cashier. ”Is it too late?”
The cashier looks from the full cup of gelato back to the mother. ”Yes,” she says, finally being allowed to speak. ”And also, we don’t do the large size on a cone because the gelato is too soft. I’m sorry.”
The mother’s attention has been grabbed. No one, especially not a cashier, says no to Joshy. ”Well,” she says icily, “can you try?”
“I’m sorry,” the cashier says. ”I’ve already scooped it. I can’t do anything with this now. I can put a cone on top if he wants?”
The mother lets out a dramatic sigh as her son’s wails get louder. ”He really wants it ON a cone. You can’t just put it ON the cone?”
The cashier, fed up with the lack of manners from the child and respect from his mother, grabs the gelato she has just scooped and throws it in the garbage. The mother’s mouth drops open a bit.
“Well, you didn’t have to do THAT,” she sneers. Joshy claps his hands behind her and yells, “See, I get a cooooonnee!”
The cashier quietly puts a small scoop of chocolate on a cone and hands it to Josh. He sees the pink spoon sticking out of the side and frowns. ”Um, I want a BLUE spoon.”
The mother, raising her phone back up to her ear, barks, “He wants a blue spoon.” The cashier hands Josh a blue spoon. He rips it out of her hand and runs to a table, where he begins smearing gelato all over the mirror on the wall behind him. His mother is already back to her conversation.
“Kelly? Sorry, Joshy needed my help,” she says, shooting the cashier a dirty look. ”Like I was saying, you are worth every penny.” She throws a crumpled twenty on the counter. ”You put up with that man for 9 months of your life.”
The cashier silently rings the woman up, counting out her change as fast as she can. The woman is turned away with her hand outstretched, waiting for her change. Once the cashier gives it to her, she walks away wordlessly. As she gets to the table, the cashier hears her sigh.
“Oh Kel, just be glad you never had K-I-D-S,” she stage-whispers. ”Joshy is getting ice cream all over his face right now, and it’s Sally’s day off. Do you think if I took him back to school, they’d give him a bath?” She giggles desperately.
Josh continues to happily finger paint the table with dark chocolate gelato, the cone long forgotten, having been thrown on the floor immediately. Moments later, they get up to leave. As his mother walks a few feet in front of him, loudly debating the pros and cons of crying in court, Josh puts his hand up in the air. They walk over the threshold and he smacks his hand on the clear glass door, leaving a perfect brown handprint gleaming in the sunlight.
Please take a moment to read the article I posted above. Play a little game while you’re reading - If you shook your head in disgust more than six times, we’re probably friends. If you nodded along with the author more than once, seriously get out of my life right now. Allow me to address various aspects of this article by speaking directly to the man who wrote it, Kyle Smith, as if I am spitting the words directly into his face (or maybe his steak).
-“Jason! I don’t care! Just bring me some food and go away!” - So Kyle, you’re annoyed that “Jason,” your waiter, told you his name, commented on the weather, and asked how you were doing. It seems you’d rather Jason be nameless, faceless, and somewhat morose. You don’t want to be smiled at, spoken to, or looked after. So my first question to you is this, sir: Why are you out in public? And also? Jason is a human being trying to do his job. Would it kill you to look him in the eye and refer to him by name?
-“You’re a servant. So serve.” - Kyle, this has to be my favorite pull quote from your charming article. Servers are not servants. They are people who are paid a minuscule amount of wages to put up with pricks like you. This does NOT mean that they are your fucking slaves. Saying that you don’t want to hear the specials and you’d prefer the server to just take your order and leave means nothing - because that is their job. They WILL serve you - after they have completed the duties required of them by the corporation or owners they work for. You honestly think “Jason” came up with the idea of reciting the daily specials on his own? No, you goddamned idiot - the people who OWN the restaurant YOU decided to patronize make Jason do that. Just as they make him smile, ask how your miserable life is going, and make painful small talk. IT. IS. HIS. JOB. It is not, however, his job to be treated as a servant.
-“After taking my order, they disappear and give way to a series of surly busboys who do the food delivery, the clearing, the refilling of the water glasses.” - Kyle, I’m confused. You just said you wanted Jason to leave you alone, and now you’re bitching that he’s not around enough? You wrote this about a busy place in NYC - Jason probably has other tables besides yours, which is why a busboy is filling your water. Or maybe Jason could sense your absolute disdain for him and felt uncomfortable dealing with you.
-“After the order goes in, the next time I see Jason is when, after first ensuring that my mouth is full, he sneaks up behind me and hits me with a cheerful, “HOW IS EVERYTHING?”” - As a person who has been in the service industry for 14 years, I can honestly say that this is always an awkward situation. There is never a really good time to ask how the food is, because you’re either interrupting a conversation or the customers are eating. But guess what, Kyle? The people who run the restaurants WANT the servers to ask you how your food is because they want to ensure that you’re enjoying your meal. What if something was wrong with it? I’m sure you’d move heaven and earth to find your server then, right Kyle? And you’d probably be glad you knew Jason’s name so you could call him over and complain.
-“In France, where I try to spend a week or two every year, waiters don’t even work for tips (the customer is expected to leave a mere euro or two) and yet they’re so much less annoying.” - Oh, what an insufferable douchebag. Good for you, Kyle. But here’s the thing - waiters in France? They’re paid a much higher hourly wage than those in the US. Are you so dumb to realize that US waiters are cheerful and helpful because their income is BASED on how their service is? If a server at TGI Friday’s came to your table without a smile, pen poised to take your order without asking how you’re doing, you would tip them 5%. Because Americans want to be made to feel included and welcomed and to leave a restaurant feeling as though they’ve had a full dining experience. That’s just the way it is. If you don’t like that, I implore you to spend more than two weeks a year in France. Like maybe 52.
-“Which is why I’m being so nice to you, Jason! In reality, I can’t stand you, you twerp! As you’ll find out when you see my tip!” - You made this cheeky comment in reference to the possibility that Jason may spit in your food or throw it on the ground. This is not a Dane Cook movie, Kyle. People don’t do that shit in real life. First of all, I don’t know what types of establishments you’re dining at, but most places follow strict health code guidelines. OR THEY GET SHUT DOWN. Also, in a busy kitchen, there are many witnesses. You think servers are getting away with throwing steak on the ground without people tattling on them? Many servers don’t have much access to your plate until the chef hands it to them - you think the busy server has time to spit in your meal and cover up said spit before bringing it out? You think a server literally picks up your beautifully presented steak, throws it on the ground in front of a kitchen full of prying eyes (and possibly cameras), retrieves it from the dirty floor, puts it back on your plate, and walks out without anyone stopping him? You are a paranoid delusional, Kyle, and you should probably seek professional help. Also, threatening a waiter’s tip because he’s “annoying” you is the most juvenile, disgusting thing I’ve heard in a while. Again, he’s doing his job. If his cheerful demeanor is too much for you, I suggest you learn how to cook for yourself and stay at home.
-“I’m spending $150 tonight, Skippy, and yet you were in the Federal Witness Protection Program when I needed a second drink. Now you want to hustle me into dessert and coffee. Uh-uh. Negative. This $28 sliver of trout still has about $9 to go, and I’m not leaving any of it behind. Enjoy my 11% tip.” - Kyle, Kyle, Kyle. Again, do you want Jason to hang around, or do you want him to leave you alone? This poor kid can’t win with you. And he’s not “hustling” you with coffee and dessert - he’s fucking OFFERING you coffee and dessert because that’s what people often want after dinner. And no one told you to spend $150 on dinner, Kyle. There are many cheaper places you can go for sustenance - and they’ll probably serve you more than a “sliver of trout,” you pretentious asshole. So let me see if I have this: You’re going to leave Jason an 11% tip on a $150 because he was too cheerful, asked you how your food was while you were eating, made you wait a few minutes for a second drink, and smiled at you. Let me lay down a few facts for you about servers, Kyle:
I do not WANT to be standing on my feet for 8 hours a day. I do not WANT to have to smile at a bunch of (mostly) rude customers who look down on me and make outrageous demands. I don’t care how you are. I don’t care if you like your food. I am PAID to care, so you will never know just how much I DON’T care. My bosses set the rules - they tell me how to act, what to ask, what to upsell, and how often to check on you. If it were up to me, I’d scowl at every asshole like you that I encountered - but you know what would happen then, Kyle? You’d complain about how rude I was. You’d rant and rave about how you’re a paying customer and I treated you like the scumbag that everyone knows you are. You’d call over the manager and tell him that I should be fired. You’d demand your meal for free because I ruined your dining experience. So make up your fucking mind, Kyle. Honestly, I don’t care what you want. I think you’re one of those miserable human beings who always finds something to complain about. For whom the phrase, “you can’t please everyone” was coined. So you’re a lost cause, and my heart goes out to any poor soul who serves you from now on.
But to those for whom there is still hope, hear this: Serving people is not easy. It can be fun, rewarding, and lucrative, yes. The service industry is also stressful, demeaning, and soul crushing at times. But for every self-important asshole like Kyle, there is a table full of wonderful people who want to talk to their server, laugh with him, maybe even praise him for working hard. And it’s those people who have kept me in this industry for all these years. Be kind to your servers, folks. Tip them well and look them in the eye. They work long hours serving the Kyles of the world, so an extra smile (and maybe an extra dollar) can go a long way.
And if anyone seats Kyle in their section anytime soon, don’t be rude. Put on the best fucking performance of your life - laugh at everything he says, pull up a chair to take his order, make lots of helpful suggestions, and (if time allows) run over to fill up his water glass every time he takes a sip. If ever there was an opportunity to kill someone with kindness, it’s now. But if you still wanted to throw his steak on the floor, I’d be ok with that, too.
“The Good Friend”
Joan and Barb enter a gelato shop. They are both turning 48 (for the third time, but we don’t talk about that) soon, but you’d never know it by looking at them. Fit and tanned, they could easily pass for 45. They are chatting animatedly, and onlookers just know that they are the closest of friends.
They approach the gelato case and all talk ceases as their eyes widen. Low moans emit from their plump lips as they take in the brightly colored pans before them.
“Oh, I’ve never been here before,” Joan whimpers to the employee behind the counter.
Barb laughs. ”I come here all the time. Don’t tell my ex-husband that! He’d kill me for sabotaging all of those private pilates sessions he pays for!” The women share a knowing chuckle.
Joan tentatively asks to try a few flavors. Barb helpfully suggests a few of her personal favorites, instructing the employee to give Joan sample after sample.
“Aren’t you going to try any?” Joan asks Barb, her eyes closing in ecstasy as she spoons some Pistachio in to her mouth.
Barb giggles nervously. ”No, I’ve tried them all! Trust me, I come in here almost every day.”
Joan begins to backtrack. ”You know, on second thought, I really shouldn’t. I’ve been off sweets since New Year’s and I’ve been doing really well. I’ve lost 7 pounds!” She throws her arms up and does a little twirl. Barb’s eyes narrow.
“You have?” she asks, a bitterness creeping into her tone. ”I guess I just hadn’t seen you in a while. Let’s get some gelato! It’ll be our secret!”
Joan glances back at the rows of forbidden indulgence. ”Barb, walking around this city with ice cream at our age is like wearing a scarlet letter. If I ate this stuff all the time, I’d be single. Alone.” Joan sees Barb’s face and begins to panic. ” I mean, there’s nothing wrong with that, you know what I mean. I’d love to get rid of my husband! Hehe. Men! Such a hassle.”
Barb stares ahead silently for a moment before breaking into a beautiful smile, showing her perfectly white teeth. ”Joan, we’re doing this. Come on! Life is short! What flavor will you choose?”
Joan breathes a small sigh of relief. She knows that doing this will make Barb forget her callousness. ”Well, ok. But just a small one!”
Barb laughs. ”A small one?? Let’s get a big one! Go big or go home and all that.”
Joan’s smile falters. ”Well…alright.” She calls over the employee and orders a medium gelato. Once the cup is in her hand, she busies herself with eating it quickly. Each bite is like heaven. ”God,” she groans, “maybe I should start coming here every day, too.”
After a moment, she looks up to find Barb. Her friend is standing by the door to the shop with a small, triumphant smile on her face. Joan falters. ”Barb, honey? You didn’t order yet?”
Barb smoothes her platinum hair back and pulls her t-shirt down over her skinny jeans. She turns and glances at herself in the mirror on the wall, giving herself a small nod. ”I don’t think I’ll have any after all,” she smirks. ”Hurry up and pay, will you? We’ve gotta get walking to burn those calories off of you!”
Hey girl. I’ve always been a “medium” fan of yours. I don’t own any of your albums, but I enjoy your songs on the radio and have even purchased a few singles from iTunes. When you first became popular, I thought your songs were adorable; songs about young love, Romeo and Juliet, and innocence. Even though you were considered a “country star,” I found your music and general attitude charming, especially considering the Mileys and Britneys the world had grown accustomed to. The fact that you wrote your own lyrics was icing on the cake - so few artists these days even sing live, let alone have input in what they’re singing. You were refreshing, cute, and real.
Some time went by and you became more of a mainstream artist. You moved away from the country side of music and began writing songs with more of a pop sound, hoping to get more airplay on Top 40 stations. The pop world embraced you, and everyone from Stevie Nicks to Brad Pitt gushed about your talent. You began to give interviews on late night shows instead of just singing, telling the hosts how you based your songs on your own experiences. This was not a shock at first - people have been writing music based on their own relationships forever. But then? Then you dated a Jonas brother.
After the usual 3 months went by, the media reported that this Jonas had dumped you. Some young starlets would refuse to comment, but not you. You went on Ellen and told an audience of millions that Joe Jonas broke up with you in a 27 second phone call. The media ate it up. Our poor Taylor! Damn you, Joe Jonas! How could he do that to our sweet, innocent country star?
You became an inspiration to jilted teenaged girls everywhere. Your songs were dissected by fans all over the world - which song was about Joe? You never commented, not at first. It was a wonder to behold, this seemingly normal superstar who went through heartache like everyone else and never, ever used her subjects’ names in her songs. You seemed mature, wise beyond your years. This continued throughout your next few high profile relationships. You allegedly had a fling with John Mayer, a much older man at the time. The world felt bad for you again for being taken in by the serial player. Then came Jake Gyllenhaal, a relationship that I wanted to hate you for until I realized that Jake is most likely gay. None of these relationships lasted longer than a few months, and you almost became a young Jennifer Aniston to the media - poor, poor thing, why can’t she find love??
Some time passed. You went back to the studio. You wrote another album of scathing hits, this time with auto-tune and chanting choruses. You dated a Kennedy who was still in high school. You bought a house near his family after only a few weeks together. Silly Taylor, so boy crazy, so naive. It was a good few months for you, filled with young love and classy parties and, you know, KENNEDYS. It all ended once summer did, as they do. You were still cheerful, never speaking ill of anyone, touring the country to promote your new album.
Then you met another boy-bander. Harry Styles. The same old story happened. You met. You went on several high profile, completely chaste dates: The zoo, Sea World. You did a few interviews around this time, never confirming your relationship. You were asked over and over how you can handle the media coverage, and you boasted that you never look at it. That you stay positive by surrounding yourself with good people and don’t pay any attention to the negativity.
Then you and Harry broke up. ”Poor, poor Taylor, so unlucky in love,” shouted the magazine covers. But then something happened to you. You began to sound…bitter. You began telling any media outlet that would listen that you were not boy crazy, you never fought with boyfriends, you never yelled at them. I think you’re a little confused - isn’t putting a song out about the intimate details of your relationship and breakup kind of…worse? Oh, but you never comment on who songs are about. But…didn’t you film a video for “We Are Never Getting Back Together” and make sure you were wearing the very same scarf you were photographed in while you were dating Jake Gyllenhaal? Did you or did you not use a British accent during your Grammys performance to publicly embarrass Harry Styles? So my point here, Taylor, is, you’re not REALLY as innocent as you’d like to come across. What you are doing is very calculated. And it gets worse.
Let’s all remember the Golden Globes, which you inexplicably attended. All Around Amazing Women and Heroes to All Smart Ladies Everywhere Tina Fey and Amy Poehler hosted. They made many hilarious jokes, including one at your expense, dear Taylor. They said, quite playfully, that you should stay away from Michael J. Fox’s son. It was harmless and, frankly, nothing that your reputation hadn’t afforded you. Weeks passed, no one made a big deal of it, and people forgot about it. Until now.
You gave an interview to Vanity Fair recently. You were asked about the Golden Globes incident and you replied, and I quote:
“You know, Katie Couric is one of my favorite people. Because she said to me she had heard a quote that she loved that said, ‘There’s a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.’”
Tina and Amy are modern feminists. They champion equality for women, and they have broken through enough glass ceilings in the entertainment industry to make ladies everywhere cheer. They made a joke, a small one at that, while hosting a show at which Ricky Gervais had previously called all famous Scientologists closeted homosexuals. Instead of feeling bad for you this time, Taylor, I am outraged. People in the public eye who can’t handle being mocked are just gross. Why do you go out in public, then? Why did you make out with Harry Styles in Times Square on New Year’s Eve while thousands of people took videos with their phones? Why did you choose to go on such public dates with the Kennedy and the Gyllenhaal and the Brit? Why do you make such pointed references in your music if you want people to respect your privacy? Why do you date only famous people if you don’t want attention? Innocent Taylor? Not anymore.
Amy and Tina have both responded to your ridiculous and uncalled for statement. Amy’s was quite sweet, while Tina’s made me smirk because I can just imagine her rolling her eyes while she said it:
Amy Poehler: “Aw, I feel bad if she was upset. I am a feminist, and she is a young and talented girl. That being said, I do agree I am going to hell. But for other reasons. Mostly boring tax stuff. “
Tina Fey: “If anyone was going to get mad at us, I thought it would be James Cameron. I did not see that one coming. It was a joke, it was a lighthearted joke.” (Tina had made a joke in reference to “Zero Dark Thirty” director Kathryn Bigelow that went, “When it comes to torture, I trust a woman who spent 3 years married to James Cameron.” You don’t see him acting butthurt.)
Taylor, darling - it’s time to grow up and take some responsibility for your actions. You are a famous singer, and unfortunately you are also becoming a famous serial dater. If you can’t handle the scrutiny that comes along with it, I suggest you knock it off. get a new shtick. This wide eyed, naive, little girl persona isn’t working anymore. Everything you’ve said and done now seems like the desperate pleas of a defensive child who got caught cheating at Chutes and Ladders. You don’t get to play the victim here, and frankly, how dare you be so disrespectful to two women who have paved the way for smart, funny ladies to be successful and celebrated. I see now that you, Taylor, are a little snot - a brat who wants to come across as an unfazed, mature, woman who doesn’t care about fame and just wants a man to come rescue her from it all. That’s not feminism. Rescue yourself, Taylor. And until you do, I’d stop talking shit to the media about two adult women not protecting you from a reputation you’ve done a great job of carving out for yourself.
Someone who will never, ever find you adorable again
Thanks for being you, you perfect, wonderful females.